How our loved ones in Spirit communicate with us

Posted on October 31, 2025July 2, 2026 by Nay

When we lose someone we love, the separation often brings deep grief, unanswered questions and a longing for connection. Fortunately, the realm of mediumship offers comfort, healing and hope by bridging this gap. But how do you know when a loved one in spirit is trying to communicate with you? What constitutes a “sign”, and how should you interpret it? In this article we’ll explore:

what kinds of signs may come through;
how to discern genuine spiritual communication from coincidence or wishful thinking;
how you can open yourself to receive these signs;
and how this process enriches your healing journey.

What counts as a “sign”?

The term “sign” can cover a wide range of experiences. According to one detailed piece on what might come up in a mediumship reading, signs can include:

Personal details of the spirit, memories, validations that only you would recognise.
Symbolic messages: images, objects, numbers, songs or smells that carry meaning for you.
Feelings or sensations: a sudden warm rush, a distinct presence, intuitive knowing.
Synchronicities: things happening that feel too meaningful to be pure chance (e.g., a favourite song plays just when you were thinking of the person; you receive a message in a dream).

What’s important is that the sign resonates with you—not just any random event, but something that evokes a sense of recognition, meaning or connection.

Why people often ask: “Is it really them, or just me?”

One of the biggest questions people face is: How do I know if it’s truly my loved one communicating, or simply my own thoughts, feelings, or desire to connect? This is a valid and important question.
Mediumship writings highlight that discerning truth from wish-thinking is part of the journey:

“You know the voice in your head. It’s the whisper of doubt that comes just as you’re about to share a piece of information from Spirit. Is this real? What if I’m wrong?”
Here are some helpful pointers:

Validation: Did the message provide a detail that you didn’t give to the medium or yourself? Something only you know? This strengthens trust.
Emotional resonance: When you feel peace, love or release rather than fear or confusion, this can indicate the message is healthy for you.
Clarity and calm: The clearer the sign (though still subtle), the more likely it’s meaningful; ambiguous or constantly shifting “signs” may reflect more your internal process.
Consistency: A single unexplained event might be chance; repeated patterns or symbols might signal intentional communication.
Outcome of the message: Does it prompt healing, comfort, understanding or closure? Communication from spirit often carries a loving purpose.

How to open yourself to receive signs

If you’re hoping to connect with your loved ones in spirit or simply become more aware of the signs around you, here are some steps you can practise:

Set a clear intention: Quiet your mind and say something like, “I’m open to any loving signs from X”.
Create a peaceful space: Turn off distractions, sit quietly, perhaps light a candle or sit with a photo or object belonging to the loved one.
Observe and reflect: After you’ve asked, watch for anything out of the ordinary: a tune coming on the radio, a specific number pattern, a smell, a feeling—note it without forcing it.
Keep a journal: Write down the date/time, what occurred, your thoughts & feelings about it. Over time you may spot patterns.
Practice discernment: Ask yourself: “Does this feel like love? Does it feel like comfort? Did it have meaning to me?” If yes, you might be tuning in.
Let go of expectations: The message may not arrive exactly how you imagine. Be open to the way the spirit chooses to communicate, not the way you want it to.

Interpreting the signs: suggestions and cautions

When you receive a sign, interpretation is key—what does it mean for you in this moment? Here are some suggestions:

Think of what the symbol reminds you of. If you smell a certain perfume, what memory does that perfume trigger?
Notice your emotional reaction: did you feel peace, awe, sadness, release? The emotion helps guide you.
Ask: “What is the loving message behind this?” Sometimes the content is less about the external event and more about the feeling it brings (comfort, reassurance, presence).
Take action: If the sign prompts you (e.g., to forgive, to speak, to remember), trust that your loved one might be encouraging your journey forward.
However, a few cautions:
Avoid jumping to grand conclusions: A single sign doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll receive a full conversation with the spirit.
Don’t let signs replace your emotional processing: Signs can support healing, but they don’t replace grief, therapy or reflection if needed.
Be mindful of dependency: If you become focused only on waiting for a sign rather than living your life and moving forward, you may stall your growth.
Stay grounded: Spiritual communication doesn’t mean you’re neglecting the physical. Balance both realms.

How mediumship readings can help

A reading with a trained medium can support this process. According to one guide:

“A medium may bring through personal details, show memories, validations, messages of love, help you see unconscious patterns, and remind you that you’re not alone.”
If you choose to have a reading, you can use your experience of signs as part of preparing:

Note down any signs you’ve already noticed.
Ask the medium for clarity on those signs.
Use the reading as a tool for healing, understanding and moving forward, not only for proof.

The deeper meaning: presence, healing and connection

Ultimately, recognising signs from spirit goes beyond the event itself. It speaks to:

Presence: Knowing that the person you loved still exists in a different form, still connected.
Healing: That connection can bring peace, closure, forgiveness and deeper spiritual growth.
Living love: When you move from longing to remembering, and from searching to trusting, you align with the idea that love continues beyond the physical.
One article notes:

“Above all, most readings bring through a sense of love, encouragement, and spiritual support … The goal is always about healing, clarity, hope and empowerment.”
When you open to signs, you’re also opening to being part of a larger, loving reality—one that honours both the seen and unseen.

Conclusion

Signs from loved ones in spirit are deeply personal, often subtle, yet profoundly meaningful. They don’t always come on our timetable, and they don’t always arrive in the way we expect—but when we open our hearts, create space for them, and remain discerning, they can gently guide us, comfort us, and remind us that connection never truly ends. Whether you’re noticing a repeated number, a scent, a dream, or a sudden wave of intuition—take the moment, reflect on what it might mean for you, and allow it to enrich your journey of healing and spiritual growth.

If you’d like to explore this further—perhaps with guided exercises on recognising signs, or tips for preparing for a mediumship reading—feel free to reach out and I’d be happy to help craft further content